Like my girl Vivica A. Fox, I have been single for quite some time 4 years to be exact. Yes, single like real single no BOO, no BAE, no DATE just NOTHING. I had so many toxic relationships in the past that I had to take a break from dating to heal and work on me. When I decided to take a break little did I know it would be for 4 years. During the break I worked on my finances, my weight loss, I just worked on me for peace of mind. During the initial break I did not expect to be in a relationship and was not looking for one, just ask my crew!!
I am now at the point where I am now open to have a relationship but for whatever reason it has not happened for me. I actually started dating this year but literally went on 4 dates which have all been dead end situations. They either turned out to be creeps or it just didn’t work out. Yes, I see all these amazing relationships on social media and also now plan and design weddings with The Ritz-Walton Collection where love is constantly in my face. I love seeing people in love but I sometimes get to a point saying when will it be my turn, hey I'm human. When people hear my age they automatically think I have a man or a kid, I have neither. I have yet to have a real relationship where a man was truly into me and not what I could do for them financially. I constantly hear you are not getting any younger but I can’t marry myself. I will not give up hope as of now it has not happened for me.
HERE ARE SOME THINGS TO DO TO KEEP BUSY...
1. Take yourself on trips explore the world.
2. Take some time after a painful relationship to heal.
3. Treat yourself to spa day, shopping and always take care of your body.
4. Spend some time to pray and meditate for a clear mind.
5. Never be afraid to take yourself out to dinner that is when you meet the most people.
I honestly keep myself busy with things that matter and that make me happy. I have a full time job, I am working on my 2nd book, I sing, I take part in community activities with shelters, I host vision board parties and so much more. Granted you can't occupy your entire time and life doing things to avoid being single but they ABSOLUTELY help. The things I listed above are things I actually do myself. I have no problem taking myself out to dinner, I go to the movies by myself, I travel a lot and meet people. Just about everyone in my circle both older and younger are either married or in long term committed relationships which is okay. Yes, I as for now I am SINGLE & LIVING, not having a significant other doesn't mean life is over. Being SINGLE & LIVING just gives you the opportunity to work on you and do the things you love.
UNTIL NEXT TIME......